Having your ex as friend is not always a bad idea but in some circumstances really difficult. The reason why you broke off is important for knowing if you really can maintain a good relationship with your ex and even to be good friends.

Some time ago you were lovers and there was passion between both of you. There is always a reason why you broke off but this doesn't always mean you can't be friends anymore. Maybe your lifestyle doesn't fit with the one of your spouse or one of both wants to make career and doesn't spend enough time for a happy family life together. There are so many reasons which you may decide to divorce. Love is gone and you will start a new life but maybe you can still be friends. Every situation is different and only you can decide if this is a good solution or not.

It is different if you broke off because your spouse cheated. It is possible you have tried to talk about and even to forgive but nobody can live with a spouse who never stops with cheating. Infidelity is one of the main reasons for a divorce today and in such situations it is difficult to have your ex as friend after your divorce. Probably your marriage ended with a terrible quarrel between you and your spouse and it is possible you really hate each other. I can't imagine you can still be friends with your ex because you will keep these "hate feelings" and even if you are be able to talk with each other; I don't think it is possible to forgive and forget this terrible time. Your ex as friend is in this situation out of the question.

Many depends of your current lifestyle if you can be friends or not with your ex today. Maybe you share your life now with someone else and you have to pay attention to the feelings of your new partner. Jealousy is human and maybe your new partner is afraid of losing you because you were married before and there was passion between both of you in the past. Before you decide to stay friends with your ex; it is necessary you talk with your new partner and ask if he/she can accept this friendship.

However, jealousy is often a bad sign; in this situation you need to respect both opinions and make a commitment which will work for both of you. I don't think your partner can't accept you are still friends with your ex because he will probably know why you broke off and it is sign of confidence in your current relationship.

There are situations when friendship with your ex can be good for you, especially when you have children. Your

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