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after reading the short list of everythingness, it looked to be a pretty easy job, and so he signed up. He failed to read the fine print that said "this list will grow, and grow, and grow. Furthermore, it will be his obligation to fulfill all of the growing list of needs in order to maintain his EVERYTHING status. Should he fail to fulfill all of these needs, he will not be excused from the EVERYTHING status, but rather to be nagged, ridiculed, and berated until such conformity is met."

It's all quite amusing to read, but not so amusing to be living infor either side.

It is unfortunate, but most of us never define what our EVERYTHING should be in the first placeit is left to an ever changing interpretation. This would be like running an ad to hire the perfect secretary, and failing to define what her duties were. We run the ad "perfect secretary wanted". She answers the ad and informs us that she can type one hundred twenty words a minute, she can take extremely fast dictation, makes the best morning coffee you ever had, answers phones, schedules appointments, makes flight and hotel arrangements with only the best companies which she has personally worked with for several years, know all the best restaurants for entertaining clients and can get reservation's at a moment's notice, can get a great deal on printing needs from her father who owns a Kinko's Center, who always looks like a million buck, and gives a mean neck message. It all sounds so good, so we hire her. A couple months into the job and we decide our deck needs painting, and ask if she can do it on her lunch hour. A couple weeks later we need a baby sitter, so we give her a call. Another month goes by and we need her to replace our transmission in the BMW. She messed up the deck, forgot to feed the baby, and the transmission still is not fixed. Now what do we do? We fire her for being a crappy secretary.

It hardly seems fair now does it? But this is exactly what we do in romantic relationships. We fail to define the job description, and become resentful when our EVERYTHING does not live up to our expectations. We fail to see all the things they ARE doing well, because we are so focused on what they are not doing well, even though if we had told them ALL of their duties, they may not have taken the job in the first place.

The saddest part of all is that this is not a job, it is a personal friendship. We would NEVER think to treat our friends like this, why? Because we know they would not be our friends

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