5 of 47

Write now Article Tools

There are numerous ways one can use to overcome a certain difficult situation without resorting to the old negative self-pity routine.
I believe that one of the most important is definitely asking for a friend's help or advice, so do not be shy about it! We do not live alone in this planet for some reason! Sometimes friends can confirm what you were already thinking of doing and that certainly gives you reassurance. Let me give you a personal life example

One day I was complaining to a friend about an old relationship, as I had done many times before. I basically was telling her that my boyfriend didn't have the ability to commit to me, that I felt such instability... She simply looked at me and said: "Why do you accept that?" At first I was obviously shocked, but then I realized she was right! We are not victims, unless we allow ourselves to be! From that day onward, I decided to change my attitude and that meant that my life should no longer revolve around my boyfriend. As a result, I wasn't always there to answer his calls and I would certainly not be the one taking the initiative all the time. In the end, I started to see good changes in motion! And that felt really good, since I was in control of myself, but not in a dictatorial way I should say. I was simply taking the reigns of my own life, I was the one setting the course, instead of waiting for something to happen. The truth is, it has to be about YOU, your attitude, your frame of mind This is another crucial point in surpassing any obstacle either in your personal or professional life.
If one day we happen to find a huge stone in our way, the solution is not to turn back, it is to face that scary monster. There might actually be ways to go around that rock, instead of just turning back or judging the world and God for that predicament! "Either we choose to be victorious or we choose to be a victim. Either we choose to be responsible for the life we create or we shirk our responsibility by blaming others for our failures and unhappiness." (Gallozi, Chuck in Overcoming Problems - www.personal development.com/chuck/overcomi ng_problems.htm)
Thus, the kind of attitude and thoughts one has will definitely determine the type of life one will create Yes! We are the creators of our own lives. We are not powerless creatures facing an inevitable doom. There is always a choice, a way to follow and whatever we choose, whatever path we take, we are ultimately responsible for that first choice. The moment of choice is therefore of supreme importance. If one chooses to be positive and look at an obstacle as a means of learning and of growing, then that obstacle will certainly be overcome or, at least, the effect it has on our minds will not be as negative. This is basically the law of attraction in the Universe. If we have good thoughts, good things shall come, on the other hand, if we cultivate a negative and obscure way of thinking, bad things shall undoubtedly emerge in our lives, as "the law of attraction is the law of creation" (Byrne, Rhonda in The Secret).
It is not an easy road though. We have to constantly remind ourselves to have the correct and positive attitude and there will be moments when we will have that old tendency to feel miserable and look upon ourselves as victims. It is an ongoing process that never stops, almost a struggle at times, one as old as human kind. The trick is to remain alert and in control of our own thoughts, of our own lives.
Ultimately it is all in the mind!

Learn more about this author, Acari.
Click here to send this author comments or questions.

Add your voice

Know something about Losing the negative person in you?
We want to hear your view. Write now!