Spanking is NOT abuse. Abuse is much different than a spanking. As a child of abuse, I can tell you that there is a HUGE difference between giving your child a smack on his or her bottom and beating the living crap out of a child. How dare you ant-spanking believers compare one with the other?!

As a child, if I got out of line with my grandmother, (who was the most wonderful person in the world), I may have gotten one of three punishments depending on the severity and the nature of the crime. I would sometimes be put in a corner on chair looking at a wall. This to me, was the worst of all of the punishments. It was boring, she made me sit there quietly looking at the wall, and when I was done I had to tell her what I did wrong, so she knew I understood why I had been put there. The next punishment was having something taken away. Sometimes it was a television show I wanted to watch, or dessert, or not being allowed to go over to my friend's house. The third and final punishment was a spanking. Three or four smacks on my bottom depending on how bad the offense was. There many times I wished she would have spanked me instead of sitting me in the corner or taking something away. That's because out of all three punishments, the easiest was the spanking. The least traumatic for me, was the spanking. The thing that was over really quickly was the spanking.

Here is the difference between abuse and spanking. Before I moved in with my grandma I had lived with my dad and his wife. His wife was crazy. If she got mad at me, she would pick up my dad's belt. She didn't hit me with a hand except for one time when she punched me in the face giving me a severe black eye. I never had a mark on me or even a really sore behind when grandma spanked me, but with my step-mom I had marks all over my arms and legs. I had to wear long sleeved shirts in the summer and long pants in the summer to hide the bruises and red marks my step-mom left on me daily.

How dare you call a spanking abuse? Should we take children away from parents who spank their children? Give me a break. There are too many children in foster care for foster parents to go around now. And yet, you want to take children away from loving parents who just want their children to grow up to be good and caring adults.

While we're at it, why don't we just allow kids to do whatever they want, whenever they want? I mean hell, if they want to spray paint the neighbor's house and we stop them, well we're stifling their creativity. If we stop our kids from beating up the neighborhood bully, well we just stopped them from expressing themselves.

Do you know what I think? I think you people who insist on a no spanking rule were terrible children who got spanked constantly and now want YOUR kids to never be spanked, and you know what? That's okay. You have the right to decide whether or not to spank your children. But don't, I repeat DO NOT, push your beliefs on me or anyone else. We care too much about our children and who they will be someday to just let them do whatever whenever.

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