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Whether to care for an elderly family member or place them in a professional atmosphere is a very difficult choice to say the least. Society has changed dramatically in the last 50 years, has have the quality of long-term institutions.

Each family must assess for themselves what the situation is that they find themselves in not only for the moment, but in the near future. The following list presents some issues which should be logically addressed by all parties involved to assure making a realistic choice:

1) What are the financial circumstances of all parties involved? Can the family
feasibly afford to support this person(s), or will this cause financial and
emotional stress for all parties?

2) How much care, if any, will the person require? Who will be responsible for
that care? Are there special physical, medical, or dietary needs that must
be monitored?

3) Is the current residence of adequate size for the additional person. Do any
modifications need to be made to the structure to accommodate any existing or
future physical limitations? If so, are they financially feasible, and can
permits be obtained to allow for any changes to be made? Would you be willing
and able to up-size your current residence, or move into a more suitable home
to accommodate the changes? Would this be temporary or long-term?

4) Are lifestyles compatible? For example, a family who travels extensively would
find it a challenge to stay at home more often to be with someone who is limited
in their ability to travel. Does the elder person require 24 hour supervision?
Who will monitor/supervise them during your working hours? Can solutions to
problems be achieved?

5) Does the elderly person WANT to be cared for by the family, or do they wish
to go to a facility? Most facilities these days are void of the astigmatisms
found in turn-of-the-century "homes for the aged". Companionship, independence,
quality care in a clean, home-like environment are very appealing to those
who really don't want to "burden" their families. Entertainment is provided
that is more conducive to the older generation.

There are numerous things to be considered when deciding to care for the elderly people in our lives. However, one should look at the whole picture, and make rational decisions in order to achieve the best possible solution to the situation. Never make hasty decisions, or make a decision because you feel "obligated" to. The situation will be intolerable for all parties concerned if you have not forged a plan that you can all abide by. Honesty and cooperation is the key to success in this situation.

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