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I won't lie to you: this is a phenomenon! Here is the thing, in the past, suitors suited, women married, and the thought of ex-girlfriends or former lovers were usually brushed under the carpet, particularly in cases where the marriages were arranged for political or economic reasons. In this day and age, things are different. Whereas in the past, individuals courted and stayed with one partner for all of eternity, in this day and age, people have multiple sexual partners, and long histories of ex-girlfriends and ex-dates. So, the generation of green-eyed ex-girlfriend haters was born.

So, why on earth does the thought of his ex-girlfriend drive you crazy? There are three simple reasons.

MYSTERY
We all ask ourselves the same questions: What did she look like? Did he love her? Did he love her more than me? Did he ever think of marrying her? Does he think of marrying me? Was she prettier than me? How did they spend their time together? What could he have possibly seen in her? What happened with their relationship did he dump her? Did she dump him? If she did dump him, why? What's wrong with him? Is he a defective boyfriend? And so on

Arguably, it is her elusiveness that adds to her mystery, drawing us in. The problem is we don't have the answers to any of these questions. In most situations, boyfriends will either a. avoid the topic of ex-girlfriends in conversation completely (presumably to nip any jealous feelings and resulting arguments in the bud) or b. talk about their relationship in a "superficial" way, never really getting into the "meat' of their relationship or what happened. When we don't know what happened, the questions start accumulating, and it's easy to get carried away with the "what-ifs" in situations.

THE "SLOPPY-SECONDS" SYNDROME
Remember those questions looming in your head? Of course you do! You can't stop thinking about it. If the ex-girlfriend dumped your boyfriend, you want to know "Why?" What did she know about him that you don't know yet? If there is something to know, when will you be privy to it? Three months into the relationship? Two years into the relationship? The bottom line is, no girl wants to "waste" her time getting close to someone who has some sort of defect. If your boyfriend idealized his ex and put her on a pedestal, and she STILL didn't want him, you want to know why!?!

While some women might feel that they are in a relationship with someone's leftovers, the "sloppy-seconds" syndrome is even present when the ex wasn't all

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