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A good listener is worth their weight in gold and one of the most important foundations in a relationship is for both partners to be good listeners.

So whether you are already in a relationship and are looking for a good listener to use as a role model or if you are looking for the love of your life and one of your criteria is someone who is a good listener, it is always good to be able to recognize a good listener. So the following are ten signs of a good listener:

1) You Can Feel That The Listener Is Fully Present And In the Moment With You: You can tell the difference between someone who is fully in the moment with you versus someone who is not in the moment or has their mind on something else. This is because when you are talking to the unfocused person you will get an urge to rush through what you are saying versus when you are with a person who is totally focused on you, you will feel at home and that you have all the time in the world to say what you have to say. With a person who is totally focused on you, you will almost feel like sighing because you feel so supported and because you feel like you are truly the centre of their attention.

2) The Listener Will Keep Eye Contact With You: The listener will keep constant eye contact with you, only looking away on occasion to prevent staring or awkwardness.

3) The Listener Will Nod, Smile And Give You Auditory Feedback: A good listener will nod, smile and give you auditory feedback such as "Mm hum", "Yeah" "I see" or "no, really?" in a sincere and interested way to encourage you to continue and to indicate that they are listening

4) The Listener Will Encourage You To Continue Talking: As you are talking, they will encourage you to continue talking. For example they will say things like "That's really interesting or I find that interesting, please continue or I'd to hear more."

5) The Listener Will Parrot Back What You Are Saying When Appropriate: Every once in a while, a good listener will parrot back what you say to indicate they are paying attention and that they are right in your story with you.

6) The Listener Will Only Finish Your Sentence When Appropriate: A good listener will only finish your sentence when the timing is right, not to try to rush you through your story or to help you out when you are at a loss of words, but to show that they are on the same wave length as you.

7) The Listener Goes By the 80% Listening, 20% Talking Rule: A good listener
knows that the art of being a good listener, whether they

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