by Valentine Logar

Created on: October 11, 2007

Young women mature sooner than young men during their adolescence.

Women reach and remain in their sexual peak later than men.

Women outlive men, although the latest statistics say that the gap is closing.

Given these three incongruent facts what would draw women to date younger men? What is the attraction and can it be sustained? I would say that there is plenty of reason to believe that some of the attraction is purely physical and possibly even hormonal; but that can't be the only reason. There is plenty of evidence that many women are choosing younger men as their life partners, not just temporary flings.

For decades men have traded in their "starter" wives for younger models without so much as a blink of an eye from society; matter of fact more often than not they receive slaps on the back and locker room nudges. But the idea of women selecting younger men as partners is still disconcerting to many. The pairing of a younger man and older women does not generate the same wink and nudge as the pairing of the younger woman older man.

Certainly women who make the decision to date a much younger man risk a certain amount of social censure. There are always the inevitable questions of what they younger man could possibly see in her or want from her. Of course if the woman has money, position, or power the assumption is that these are the obvious attractions. More often than not the scorn comes from young women who cannot imagine why a young man would choose the mature woman over them. There is also always the woman's peer group who will question the judgment of the woman and the motivation of the man. The most common question both will always hear; "what do you have to talk about?"

Let me respond to all of this from personal experience, from my heart and soul, and from my mind. I turned fifty this year a milestone year for most women and certainly for me as well. Last year my husband of eight years turned thirty. For you my dear readers, yes that it is a nineteen year age difference. What do we talk about? We talk about many things some of it mundane such as whose turn it is to do the dishes and how horrible our work week was, some of it well, we talk about the world, philosophy, morals, religion, our lives, our dreams, our desires, our history together and apart, sometimes our differences. When we met I was not looking for a relationship, ever again; marriage was certainly not in my stars.

Younger men, what are the benefits? Passion! Focus and the lack of past

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