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Everyone has an emotional leech in their life, someone that will completely drain you emotionally and sometimes physically if we let them. They always have a problem or need help. Your relationship with them is totally one sided. You give and you give and they take and they take.

So how exactly do you deal with the people who drain your energy? You take control of the relationship. You stop letting them have power over you with their sob stories and their crisis situations. You tell them NO. Once you realize that they are taking all of your time and energy you have to put a stop to it.

You have to decide if this is a relationship you want to keep. Is it worth the work and commitment it will take to turn it around to become a healthy relationship? Do you think the person who is draining you will even see that what they are doing to you is wrong?

No matter what you decide to do with or about the relationship, you have to treat the other person with love and respect. Even though you may be angry with them for the chaos they have caused in your life, you were the one who let them cause it in the first place.

Once you have determined how you are going to proceed with the relationship, weather it is changing it or ending it, you need to be aware that it isn't going to be easy. After all you have, more than likely, spent years training each other how to respond. They call with a problem and you drop what you are doing to help them or you spend hours on the phone listening to them vent. They expect this and you are used to giving them what they expect.

You need to help them understand what their neediness is doing to you and your relationship. Then you need to set boundaries for them. They can only call you once a day or once every other day. There are only certain times of the day they can call or stop by. Just a tip for you, although you are wanting them to back off you may miss their constant presents at first. Resist the temptation to call and see how they are doing. They will call you soon.

There are some clingy people that will get mad and stop being friends with you when you set boundaries for them. It is almost like it they can't have complete control of your every moment they don't want to be friends with you. Let them go! Your quality of life will improve and your drama level will go down.

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