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Divorce is only the necessary burial of a corpse; that of a dead or even never born love among a man and a woman. Not the destruction of the Family, as mainly Catholic Church claims, but simply the constatation of its already occurred death.
What breaks married couples and also the not married ones?
It's difficult to say, expecially in priority order, given that, in every Country and continent, there're very different social, religious and cultural realities conditioning a couple .

I think that the main general reason is that men and women are not capable to choose the right person for them and the main particular field where a couple fails are partners' ideas about MONEY MANAGEMENT in its various aspects.
Frequently, the crisis happens in couples with low reddit or with temporary or recurrent economic problems; one of the two accuses the other of not being able to earn enough, of not having any ambition, of wasting money someway, of "having married me only for money!", of being stingy.
The last reason is frequent in husbands: also my father was very stingy and I well remember that, when I was a child, my mother had to quarrel very frequently with my father (she was a housewife, but my father had a good job as engineer) to have some money to buy clothes for me. It's only thanks to her that I didn't go to school dressed like a little beggar. For herself, even less; and even a birthday or anniversary gift by my father to her was very rare.

Apart from my personal case, money and family heritage problems are really dangerous, destroying reciprocal trust and creating violent quarrels as for jealousy.
Money and the way to use it are frequently the main reasons for which married couples discover to have little in common to justify a life together in the same house.
I said "house" and not "home" because many couples realize sadly that the HOME of their first love dreams was only a simple HOUSE containing two persons too different the one from the other.

I have mentioned above jealousy for infidelity. Infidelity appears when there's not solid love in a couple and jealousy is the reaction to it, more or less violent. Here in Italy this cause is not so important as in the past when even the so-called "murder for honour", committed to punish the "horns" that the unfaithful partner made to the other, was tolerated by laws.
Today, more parity exists among sexes and this is good; the couple relation is less "possessive" than once, but jealousy is still a good reason, at least to ask for divorce, expecially if related to recurrent violence in the couple, mainly by man on the wife and on children.
Today, the number of weddings in Italy is decreased and separation and divorces are increasing; I also know many friends or persons get married for SUPERFICIALITY in feelings and knowledge of their partner.
Just money problems are the best proofs of how fragile is a couple.

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