You cannot MAKE someone feel a certain way about you. That's my mantra- that is what I tell myself everyday as I look into the eyes of the man I am in love with. Oh yes, he loves me too- "as a friend", but all the signs point to the fact that he is just not into me. Its a one-sided love affair that makes me frightened to reveal feelings I know are NOT reciprocated. Even as I write, tears come to my eyes as I sadly but constantly convince myself that, well, its truly a case of unrequited love.

Just as we can't make someone feel a certain way, we can't help how we feel. I often wonder how the HELL did I get into this predicament. I get angry at myself for feeling the way I do about someone who is not going to give me the love I deserve. He will give me his friendship and support, but I can't have what I want the most- his romantic feelings of love.

I often wonder if this unrequited love is a sort of self destruction. Why would I want to be with someone who doesn't want me? I'm not being honest with myself, because, deep inside I am wishing, praying, HOPING that his feelings will change. My reasonable side knows that this is a pointless dream, however my emotional side does not want to give up.

So, how should we all deal with unrequited love? The real answer is - no one should have to DEAL with it. We should realize it, accept it and move the hell on. Why are we torturing ourselves, knowing things are not the way we need them to be?

I'm wondering if the author who created this title read the book. The point was that we all are special and deserve to be treated like kings and queens. We should NEVER accept anything less than we need or desire- and if someone is truly "into you", he/she will make every effort in the world to be with you. I mean, look how hard YOU are trying!

Dealing with the an unrequited situation requires a harsh wake up call. Most likely, it will cause emotional stress of some sort, as we slowly but surely wake up from our lovesick dreams. The key words are "wake up".

Face it, its wonderful to be in love, yet a one-way love affair just won't work.
However, when the love is reciprocated, its magic. Somewhere its out there. We need to have faith that sooner or later, we will find EXACTLY what and who we are seeking.

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