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I have met so many vibrant, intelligent, nice people who essentially are going nowhere. These people do not necessarily have come from the wrong side of the tracks, but people who cannot succeed usually do have four distinctive traits. Do these traits mean that people cannot eventually succeed? Of course not; sitting down and really getting to know yourself can determine why you or someone you know is just not succeeding.

Lack of a strong family background

Let's face it, we all were not raised in a Leave it to Beaver' household. Many of us had dysfunctional parents, parents who may have abused us, or been absent physically or emotionally. For those of us in our thirties and even forties, this can be an especially difficult stumbling block as we were raised in an era of See no evil, speak no evil' where dysfunctional family situations were NEVER discussed outside the home. If this was your background, acknowledge it, accept it, get therapy if necessary and MOVE on.

Lack of education

We all need a certain level of education to exist in day-to-day life. While Politicians continuously belabour the issue of illiteracy and people falling through the cracks in the public education system, many people who do not succeed do have College and University degrees. The problem with most education is that it does not prepare people for the real world. If you find yourself College educated and on the highway to nowhere adjust your skill set, determine what it is you need to learn to succeed.

Lack of emotional intelligence

Ever met a great person, only to find them turn on a dime? I know I have, and I am not talking about the unfortunate members of society who suffer from mental illness. Some people never mature emotionally, and go through life with a character flaw of not being able to appropriately control their emotions.

In his best selling book Emotional Intelligence, author Daniel Goleman outlines what uncontrolled rage, lack of learned empathy, and being a slave to our basic desires can do to our personalities. Re-learning how to be emotionally smart, and how to properly re-act or not re-act appropriately to life's situations, can drastically improve our living circumstances. We simply cannot go through this life being a slave to our various appetites, or expect to take anyone else along with us!

Lack of self worth

Despite perhaps coming from a strong family background, having a good education, a solid spiritual or religious belief set and being emotionally stable, some people

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