by Dawn Hawkins

Created on: October 05, 2007   Last Updated: April 25, 2009

Being a parent is a tough job even when there are two of you doing it. It becomes twice as hard when we find ourselves alone and raising the children. You have to be stronger than ever to make it through.

Here are some tips to help you through:

1. No matter how hard it gets, remember that your kids aren't a whipping post. Only get on them when they have done something wrong. Don't yell at your kids because you are upset that you might not meet your bills that month.

2. Remember that your kids love you. If you let them know from the start that you are the boss, they will respect that. They might try to push their luck with you in the beginning. If you don't give in to it, they will eventually see that they aren't going to get away with it.

3. Your kids can help with the housework. You are probably overworked as you are trying to put food on the table. Doing a few chores never killed any kid. In fact, it probably only made them more responsible.

4. If you are alone because you got divorced, you ex may try to make you feel like you are a bad parent. Don't let him/her do that to you. They want you to feel like you can't make it without them. Prove them wrong.

5. Talk to other single parents. Watch them to see how they make it through every day. They probably have some great tips for you.

6. Don't let your kids play two ends against the middle. Don't let them play the back and forth between mom and dad. Keep communication open as much as possible between you and your ex. If you do that, the kids have much less chance of getting over on you.

7. Talk to your kids. They are smarter than we give them credit for. Let them know that you have some fears. Let them know how much you want things to be good for them. They will listen and they will let you know how much they love you. That is so important. That is what kept me strong when I went through this.

You are a smart person. You can do this. Make time for yourself. Take a hot bubble bath or a long walk alone. It will refresh your mind and let you reflect on where you have been and where you are going. Here's to you!

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