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When considering if one should engage in pre-marital sex, it is helpful to look at all of the characteristics of a meaningful relationship that might eventually lead to marriage. Without several vital components, any serious relationship will inevitably fail. These components are; connectedness, cooperation, and above all, love. The question we all need to ask is, can a relationship have all these components without sex? Since any relationship that will eventually lead to marriage must be fairly serious, this is a fair question for unmarried couples. And the answer to that question is without a doubt, no, it cannot.

Connectedness between two people happens when each person feels as if the other knows who they are in their entirety. It is a natural part of any serious relationship and will most likely happen unintentionally. Just from spending so much time with another person, it is only logical that you will soon know them inside and out. It is often a precursor to love, which is why its so vital for relationships. Connectedness brings with it a plethora of feelings that include security, comfort, intimacy, admiration, adoration, and an all together sense of emotional wholeness. There are types of connectedness, just as there are different ways of knowing people. You most likely had connectedness with your parents, siblings, and close friends. Sex, and all of its physical aspects is what separates the type of connectedness. You may know your father much more than any other person in the world, but you don't know him sexually. Sex is another way to get to know your girlfriend/boyfriend on a completely different level, and without it, true romantic connectedness can never be achieved. It would be like reading a book, but skipping the last chapter. Know matter how well you knew the rest of the book, your information on the story would still be incomplete.

Sex, whether we like it or not, is an extremely huge part of the human psyche. It is the only biological reason why you're alive now. If humans were programmed to not think about and have urges about sex as much as we do, than the human species (and every other species in the world for that matter) would not exist. Lets take an example from prehistoric times. If love were not connected with sex, than partners would have no reason to stay together after having sex, which would force the woman to raise her child alone. This would greatly increase the child's chances of dying since there is only so

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