I had my two children 22 months apart- therefore my daughter was under two when my son was born. I didn't breastfeed for long, but I have fond memories of trying to run after my daughter with my poor son's mouth clutching my nipple for dear life.

When referring to an "older child", I hardly consider under 2 years of age older. My daughter could not understand the whole concept of breastfeeding- how can you explain bonding to a toddler?

I did the best I could for my daughter. Unfortunately, my son could never get enough breast milk. Fortunately, my daughter had discovered the wonderful world of t.v. This was an easy way for all of us to sit down and relax. I got to spend time with my daughter and still attend to my son. We watched a lot of TV and for those who shudder at the thought of using the TV as a babysitter, I assure you, it was a necessity and it worked.

My daughter also loved her Little Tykes kitchen, however she wanted me to play with her. I would give her assignments such as making me meals, however in a toy kitchen, the cooking time is considerably less for even the most gourmet dishes. She would bring them to me proudly and I would maneuver my son and my breast so that I could sample her concoctions.

The key is to try to encourage independence and the ability to have a child be able to entertain his/her self at any age. If expecting a second child, its a good idea to work with the first child so that he/she can play independently, or just be able to require little interactions so that the mother is free to breastfeed. I would ask her to "read us a book" or play with her doll which she could do close to me, yet not require me to tear myself (and my boob) away from her brother.

Breastfeeding is a generally rewarding time and I felt it was necessary at least for the few weeks that I participated. Its a challenge when there is another child that requires your attention. With planning and creativity, the hurdles can be quickly overcome.

Both my kids are in college now and those first few weeks after my son were born are virtually a blur, yet I look back now and smile. It was a time of discovery and solving immediate dilemmas-almost a distant memory, yet if I had to do it over, I wouldn't change a thing.

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