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There is something really amazing that happens when you have your first child, your husband becomes a Father. I can remember the moment it hit me that I was no longer the most important person in my husband's world. I walked into the living room to find my husband lying on the couch with our son asleep on his chest. He had one arm lying over our baby to keep him safe and pillows on the floor in case he fell. I just stood there and looked at them. Except for our wedding day I can't really remember a moment when I loved my husband more.

In that moment I realized how much our relationship had changed. We went from a couple who did pretty much what we wanted when we wanted to parents who had a little guy to consider in all our choices. You never really know how having a baby will effect your relationship with your husband until you have one. I never thought my husband would be the type to get up in the middle of the night to feed our son so I could sleep. At first I felt bad if he did, because he had to go to work the next day and I didn't. Then one night I got woke up to hear him talking to our son over the baby monitor. He was telling him all the things they would do when he got bigger and how he should be good and take naps so that his mom could get some sleep during the day. He stopped talking so I got up and went to the nursery; there he was just standing over the crib looking down at our son smiling. That was when I realized that he liked getting up with our son because he was just as much a dad as I was a mom.
I think we moms tend to forget that we aren't the only ones who can take care of our little ones and we are standing in the way of our husbands being really good dads by not giving them the chance to care for and nurture our children. Don't try to take on raising your kids single handedly unless you have no other choice.

Some of my fondest memories of my husband are ones when he probably didn't even know I was watching him. When I see him with our son and he is just holding him or talking to him those images are what I see the most when I think of him. I love watching them now that our son is bigger and they are playing cards or dominoes at the kitchen table while I am cleaning up from dinner. Or out in the back yard working on some "man" project. I always think back to when he was a baby and how they wouldn't have the strong bond they do now if I hadn't given my husband the chance to be a dad.

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