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I never thought I'de see the day when I could truthfully start the sentence "my fiance and I...". This was usually used as a way to get out of an uncomfortable situation with a pushy guy at a bar or trying to make up some sort of fairytale life to a girl from high school who seemed to have everything going for her since we last saw each other in gym class. But now, even months after we've been engaged, I still have to take a breath so I can correctly start the phrase or keep myself from feeling like a liar.

Now, while most people tend to share how they met their significant other, and have this touching tale to tell - ours isn't really a story we can laugh about and share over coffee with friends. There's no "...oh and the funny thing is that the whole time we both were...". To be honest, my fiance's entrance into my life is completely true to his nature. He quietly came into it, stood by my side constantly but in the background for a few years, then BAM! Love. I never understood that "still waters run deep" phrase until I met him.
And true to MY nature, we came as a shock to everyone. When we started dating people never believed us or even realized we were really close friends. And when we announced our engagement - half the people we knew didn't even think we were that serious. I think I should have taken this as an insult - but I see it as a strange twisted little positive. I've always been private about my love life. And he's private about pretty much everything else.
And while I'm being honest, this engagement thing happened out of nowhere. Really. While I really enjoyed being with my now-fiance, I've never been one for stable long-term relationships. Dating was a hobby. Having a steady boyfriend was a "break" in a weird little way. And this habit also came as a shock for people who knew me growing up.
I come from a strict Latino Catholic home. I was too afraid and too shy to even strike up conversations with boys who weren't my childhood friends. I went through 13 years of wearing a plaid skirt and my four years of high school were completely boyless. Out of high school I dived right into college life and led it to the fullest possible - dating being one of them.
Long-term relationships were never my thing. I tried it early on, but it just led to some really crappy feelings that I did not want to deal with. I also got myself into trouble and into some not-so-healthy relationships. So I decided that as far as dating went, my main objectective

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