Your first instinct might be to teach your child all you know about the game of golf. So on that note, you pack up the clubs you just purchased for him and head out to the course. The clubs look a bit long when the youngster holds them, but what the heck, they were on sale and he's just learning anyway.

You may be an above average golfer, but often it's a mistake to take on the task of teaching your youngster the basics of golf yourself. Your muscles have memories and if you have grown used to a certain type of swing that might not be mechanically correct, you will be starting the youngster off on the wrong foot.

Of course your child is just learning, and depending on their age, attention span, and patience, not to mention natural ability, they will most likely whack that ball 100 times just to reach the 2nd hole.

In actuality, your day at the course has become a game of 'hunt and search' that finally ends when the golf ball supply runs out. Or perhaps sooner when the 10th set of golfers has played through.

Hopefully, after this memorable morning of duffer's delight with your thoroughly dis-enchanted youngster, you have come to several conclusions.

-that was not fun.

-you are not a coach.

-you have to take a different approach

-you need help in teaching him.

The first thing to do would be to purchase clubs that are just the right match for your child's size. Let a pro help you with the sizing. More expensive clubs will not make learning easier, but proper fitting ones will.

Spend the money and let the club pro give your child all the lessons they need to make them understand and be comfortable with the game. When he's done, take some lessons yourself so you are both on the same page.

Once the basics of golf are figured out, be sure to spend the time to explain proper etiquette on the golf course.

Don't just head out on to the course. Spend lots of time at the driving range and let your child work on what he was taught. Then go to the putting green and work on that part of the game. Then practice the "approach" shots to the green, like pitching and how to hit the ball out of the sand.

Don't just head out onto an 18 hole course. Don't even head out on to a 9 hole course if there is a shorter par-3 course for those who are learning.

The secret is "tiny steps." Learning a 'feel' for the game, and slowly building confidence.

Look at each new step as a graduation.

When that big day comes that you join your child on their first attempt at an 18-hole course, it will be a very special day and both of you will approach it with enthusiasm and confidence.

It should be looked at as a distant goal and not a starting point. It may even take a year or two to get there, but will be a great experience when you watch your child drive his first tee shot on a full course down the heart of the fairway.

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