by Buffy

Created on: September 28, 2007

The only way to banish jealousy is to ask yourself if it is serving any useful purpose in your life. Does it bring you happiness? Of course the answer is 'No'. It can't be anything but 'No', because jealousy is such a destructive emotion.

Unfortunately it appears to raise its ugly head mostly in people who are very insecure, unhappy people, people who don't ask for or expect much for themselves.

By asking the questions "Does it bring to you what you are hoping for?" and "Are you happy, content and peaceful in your relationships and with life in general?" and answering these questions as honestly as you can, you will already know that jealousy is never an appropriate emotion. But how to stop it?

The only way to stop jealousy is to begin loving yourself, and to start demanding and expecting only the very best for yourself. This may have to be done with professional help, but however it's done, this is the only answer to all the negativity that follows the feelings and behavior of jealousy. By learning to like yourself, to appreciate the wonderful and unique human being that you are, and then expecting to receive only the very best that life can offer you, can you begin to change your negative behaviors.

Life can be so wonderful, and you don't need to have a partner to enjoy all its splendors. You don't need to have more money, the best job, the most friends, or the newest model car, to be happy. But you do need to know and love yourself, to accept yourself as you are, and to finally be able to look at the world through happy and content eyes. Remember also that the person you may be jealous of is probably not as happy, successful, healthy, or whatever you think they may be. And the person with more money is not necessarily a 'successful' person, just because of their wealth. 'Success' is defined by healthy relationships, the relationship with yourself, your family, friends, pets, our planet, and so on.

Becoming content and peaceful with yourself, and the path you are treading in this lifetime, is vital to leading an authentic and happy life. Good health and happiness will surely follow if you can accept and love who you are. Jealousy is a self-destructing emotion and will never bring you any joy or satisfaction, so take whatever steps necessary to rid yourself of its clutches.

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