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Harsh realities: Outgrowing friendships. We can reflect with fondness on our childhood friendships but our reflections are often shattered by the harsh reality that we as human beings have changed. What caused people to once grow together as friends could now separate them. We have matured in our beliefs and behaviors and so outgrown each other. We search for new friendships that fit our new selves.

Friendships change because we change. Our values,beliefs and attitudes change as we get older and this invariably effects our friendships with others. Experiences that we have throughout our lives are a driving force that act as a catalysts for change within ourselves.

Outgrowing a friendship is not necessarily a bad thing. We continue to grow emotionally and there for seek out new reaffirmations of our selves through friendships. Old friends provide us with a reference point in our lives when we felt differently about people,place and things. They give us fond memories to reflect upon and serve to remind us of our humanity. Recognizing that we've outgrown old friendships is a beginning to understanding the part of ourselves that lives in the here and now.

We may miss our old friends be we cannot live our lives in the past. We must continue to develop new friendships and new attitudes,beliefs and values. In order to survive in an often cold and cruel world we must adapt to it in appropriate ways.

Say goodbye to the old self and find your new self in the here and now. Let go of old friendships and pursue new ones. You will grow more as a human being if you do.

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