by K.C. Neal

Created on: September 26, 2007

There are many "it depends" in this equation. But, for the majority of people who "date" on-line, it is true that they devote a great deal of their lives and feelings to their online relationship.

There is true hope and knowledge that the relationship that has been formed though hours and hours of discussion across the Internet highway will develop into its physical counterpart. No longer is it required, or maybe it never was, to be face to face when sharing feelings. If a person is typing, many times it is easier to share intimate thoughts. There is less fear of rejection or negative reaction.

The convenience of being able to "talk" to someone at any hour is likely to bring the couple closer. They can talk late into the night, while at work, or even in transit. So many issues can be discussed that may not have come to light due to outside interruptions in the "real" dating world. For example, while watching a movie at a theater on a typical date, there is not time for conversation.

Because the Internet encourages "conversation" to continually take place, so many questions about each other can be answered. Background, preferences, hobbies, hopes and fears are likely to be discussed. And, once again, probably more openly because the shyness or fear that people have when talking face to face is not an issue.

There is no question that there are many who "play the field' on the Internet. But, don't we do that in the real world, too? How does one know that they have found that perfect person if they have never talked or dated anyone else?

At some point, the couple will feel comfortable enough with each other that they will meet in person. When they do, they will have so much more in common than if they had met by chance and it was a first time date. They will be able to elaborate on the many topics already discussed while chatting. Emotions will then be shown. Personalities will come to light.

Issues that would cause chaos somewhere down the "live " dating route are also discussed many times while "talking" on the Internet (finances, location, religious preferences, and children). The individuals can take the time to think about compatibility on their own, and then choose rather to continue with the online relationship. Less heartbreak occurs that way.

And to get a bit cheeky and personal, the sexual intimacy is put off for awhile, since distance is usually an issue. Online dating is a way to avoid making the mistake of having sex with someone and then regretting it because you didn't know "this or that" about them.

All that said, online dating is not for everybody. But, since it is an option that has been successful for thousands, it would be worth a try.

Happy hunting!

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