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Outgrowing friendships can be one of the most devastating, yet pivotal parts of maturation in one's life. I this by first hand experience. It's not only hard to let go of a friendship that is dying but it's even harder when that friend has been your life companion, not just a surface friend. It's funny to me that the title of this article is about "Outgrowing Friendships", because that is the one rule I have before I ever qualify someone as my friend. They have to be someone I believe will grow with me for the simple fact most people I know I outgrow. Having said that it's a delicate process to part ways with someone who has been a life companion for many years especially if you met in a time of affliction and adversity. I believe there are seasons to everything including relationships; some people are there to give you encouragement during a rough spot, some to give you wisdom, some to give you a reality check but no matter what they are there for they all have a season.

I can remember about a month ago I outgrew a friendship that has been a part of my life for almost 15 years. Not only was ending this friendship saddening but it was also the hardest reality check I have ever had to face. One might say "It must have been something horrible that came in between you two to end such a long lasting friendship." nope the truth of the matter was we simply had two different visions for our life purpose, which ultimately equates to division. Division is nothing more than two separate visions. He wanted to live a life of money, girls, sex and freedom and I turned to the Church as my way of life. We didn't belittle each other for how the other one was living but it became apparent that if either one of us were going to mature and grown in the path that we have chosen we had to get rid of those things that hindered us and as unfortunate as it was, it was each other.

It's funny we all know when its coming there are evident signs:

1. The laughter and joking that you used to share together becomes subtle and less than before, and your conversation turn into more business than quality time like it used to be.

2. You begin to look for other people and activities to fulfill your time and those little things that used to remind of that person no longer fill your thoughts as quickly as they use to.

3. You find yourself getting frustrated with menial conversation and it becomes taxing on your emotions, but because you have a deep love and respect for the person you find yourself not

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