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Keep your husband included in your labor. My husband played such an important role in my children's births, I could not have done it without him. Yes, I was the one doing all the work, but I needed him so much. He was my emotional support, my jester who had me laughing at myself, my coach, my secretary, my chauffeur, and most loving caring companion I could imagine. When you are giving birth to your baby it is important to make a conscious decision before hand to pay attention to your husband. Pain can affect you in different ways. You may not want to be touched, talked to or looked at. It can also distract you from what is going on around you. Your child's birth is as important to you as it is to your husband. It is important to show that you know how much he is needed.

Before the nineteen sixties, fathers were not allowed in the birthing room. The hospital believed in keeping everything clean and sanitary. Dr. Ferdand Lamaze a French doctor showed the world natural child birth, which could include the husbands presence and the mother being awake. Us woman can now feel better during child birth with the presence of our husbands.

Here are some tips that will help keep you husband included and show you care:

First of all, talk about the birth before you get there. If this is his first child, explain to him how you react when you are in pain. If you are afraid let him know this. Confiding in someone can make that person feel special to you. Lean on him for support. Ask him how he feels about the birth? Is he nervous what are his concerns? It is really helpful to have and emotional connection established prior to going into labor. This can help you to help each other when the time comes.

Second of all, make sure he is the driver when going to the hospital, and thank him because he is just as nervous as you are. He can get the bags and speak to the nurses for you if you are in too much pain to talk, he can also be the sectary a make all the phone calls to let loved ones know the baby is coming. He can ring the nurse to assist you or he can assist you to the bathroom. He can help remind you to frequently urinate.

Third of all, know that when you are in pain you may feel like you are the center of the world it is good to remind yourself that your husband can help you and is waiting to be given something to do. My favorite task my husband did was to pat my head with an icy cold wash cloth. Having your hair brushed, back massages, or your feet rubbed are very pleasant as well. He can also monitor when your next contraction is coming. Some people are different, but I didn't like knowing when they were coming. Also don't let pain become serious. My husband cracked a lot of jokes which actually got my mind off the pain for a few minutes.

Fourth of all, and what I find to be the most important was my husbands action as a coach. He constantly said "you can do it!" And I believed him, it gave me a second wind. He knew me so well he knew when to say it to. His repeated words of encouragement were the most vital instrument anyone could have given me. He also told me how much he loved me. I let him know right a way how thankful I was for that. Trust me he felt very important, useful and included.

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