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I definitely think that couples should try to live together before they decide to get married. It makes things so much easier on the both of you. And with divorce rates as high as they are, you almost need to "test the waters" to give yourselves the best chance of staying together.

I have lived with my fiance for about seven years now and we are getting married in July. We get along better now than we ever have in our eight year relationship. That is all thanks to living together and learning each others tendencies.

If you don't live with each other ahead of time, you don't know what your getting into. You don't know that he likes to take his clothes off and just leave them where ever and hang his under ware on the doorknob. Or that she has to watch these particular TV shows on these days at this time and you can't talk to her during that time.

You just don't know if you can live with that person, and it will take a lot compromising after the wedding to not be so abrasive to each other even though you love each other more than life itself. Love will take you a long way but you can't constantly rub each other the wrong way and expect the other just to put up with it.

So you need to take a trial period, whether it is for two months or ten years. That way you both know each others' little quirks and how to deal with them without killing each other. Because I'll tell you first hand, it is not the easiest thing to live with another adult and have them in your bed. You want to watch tv and she wants to listen to music or you want to work out and she wants to cuddle. No matter what, it is always something, trust me.

Now I love my fiance more than anything, but she wasn't the easiest person to live with seven years ago. No matter what I wanted to do, she was always the opposite. So guys especially, you had better know how to compromise. The hardest thing you will ever learn in your life is "Yes Dear, Your Right". The sooner you learn that, the sooner you can live in peace, together.

So back to the point at hand, all couples should live together at least long enough to learn each others tendencies. Just try it for two months. It is actually pretty fun. I know too many people who thought they loved each other, until they started living together and found out that their love was really lust. And lust won't get you very far except in trouble. It may not sound like a big deal to you now, but it really is. Anyone who has been there, knows that it is a big deal.

Of course marriage is about love, and being able to live together is never mentioned directly in your vows. Of all the weddings that I have ever been to, I have never heard "and I will pick up your underwear off of the floor every morning without getting mad" in any vows. So just live with each other for a little while you will both be better off. And the love only grows, trust me.

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