Do single mothers raise bad sons?

I am a single mother of 3 sons. I was married twice. But, I've been single longer than I've been married and my 3 sons are men now. They are good men. They didn't get into too much trouble, but they did get into trouble. I must say that neither of my sons fit into that "ordinary guy" role. All 3 have very strong personalities. They are leaders, not followers. I guess that is because I had to work all the time and they had to do a lot of things on their own at an early age.

I had always felt that I could teach my sons what I believed to be right, but the manly things, I could not teach them. I could tell them that men are supposed to be strong and stable, the breadwinner; but in their eyes, the strongest person in their life as they were growing into manhood, was me. I could teach them what a woman likes. But in no way am I masculine. I don't know how to shave, I hate football, I don't hang out with other men as a man. I don't know how to be a man.

I could only teach them a woman's viewpoint. At a certain period during "teendom" (that period between the ages of 14 and 19), a teenager doesn't want to listen to his mother anymore. I think because of that, they learned a lot of things from the streets. Which I truly believe could have been avoided if there was a father in the house when they were growing into manhood.

But then I think, if I had stayed with the abusive man that I was married to last, they may have turned into wife abusers also. And they aren't and I am glad of that. So my answer to the question is; No, single mothers do not raise bad sons.

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