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Of course second marriages can work, just the same as first, third or fiftieth even, there is no reason to think that second marriages are a mistake or wont work as well as any other marriage. The odds for divorce are often lower then with first marriages as well, even between couples being married for the second time, which is fairly unusual anyway.

That being said i believe second marriages can often work even better than first ones because of both people being older and wiser, and knowing themselves and what they want in a partner and out of life better than they did when they were younger. Many people who marry are completely different people in ten years time, and they often simply grow apart from their spouses over the course of time. Second marriages are by nature easier because they are later in life of course then first ones and mean that you are generally more settled in terms of where you are in life and what you want to do with your career etc and what you want to achieve in the future both professionally and personally.

Furthermore there are often either already children from previous marriages or there are no children and neither partner wants them, so there is less complication in the relationship if anything goes wrong. At times children can put a strain on relationships because either party isn't seeing enough of the other, and perhaps one has to work hard to keep the family together, meaning that shared experiences that bring them closer together as a couple are ignored as they are simply too busy.

I know personally of plenty of couples in their second marriages, and they are lasting just fine, because both parties knew better what to expect and didn't get married for any of the wrong reasons like they may have done the first time. Furthermore they were able to better choose their partner better the second time because they knew better what they really wanted and needed from a relationship more than they might have years ago. Often the type of people tat we are attracted to when we are younger is a lot different to the people we are attracted to as we get older, and this process usually goes on for at least a few years until we should consider ourselves really ready for marriage.

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