You always hear stories from people saying, I didn't feel liked I belonged in my family. I felt like an outcast. Everyone liked football and I liked the xfactor! Or I was the middle child I always felt forgotten or talked over.

So many people go through life not knowing where they belong, not knowing where their place in life is. There are ways to help prevent things like this from happening.

Self-esteem is a person's belief about themselves. A person's self-esteem is based on their actions, both as how as well as what he or she does. Although self-esteem varies from time to time, the pattern usually leans toward a healthy or unhealthy view of self. With healthy self-esteem, a person is more likely to succeed in life.

The Best feeling in the world is being able to go to a place where you can call home. A place where you feel like you belong, a place where no one can hurt you, a place where you can learn something new each day from the ones who love you the most.

By making the effort to communicate with the members of our family, we know that we are loved and respected and that we belong. I believe each person in your family needs to:

Show their love to each family member. Let the members in you family know you love them for who he or she is, not for what he or she does. Make it a habit to show your love for your family members at least once a day.

. Make a contentious effort to let the members of your family know that he or she is special. It doesn't hurt to tell each other how wonderful they are every now and then.

. Praise each other. Make positive comments about each other. It may not hurt to tell dad that you missed him or how good you mum's cooking is. Notice the positive qualities in each other and try to not focus on the negative qualities.

Listen to the members in your family just don't let it go in one ear and out the other. When someone in your family shares something with you, give that person your undivided attention and listen carefully. Don't give advice unless asked for it.

. Have family time. Have regular times for the family to have fun together, such as playing board or card games. Try to have as many family meals together as possible. Don't discuss problems or concerns during these times unless it is absolutely necessary.

. Encourage family bonding time. Look for activities with the whole family can bond together and spend special moments together where everyone can feel close, a feeling of acceptance, and unconditional love from the people who mean the most in their lives.

Remember, without love there is no healing. With Love, healing is foreseeable. Having a family can be a fulfilling and an exciting experience. My family life is an important part of our life. How we treat each other and the respect we give each other will affect our relationship with that person and could affect how that person feels about themselves.

Families grow and change over time, so it's important that we have the skills to be remaining close to each other able to keep our family relationships happy and healthy.

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