I have excepted death as a part of life and as step to a new plain, but what is socially acceptable when as a result of a death you loss all that means anything to you. Why should a person who has suffered be told by society that you need to get over this and move on, what if their is nothing to move on to.

Why should a family move on, when the very thing that has been your hole life, is gone and you have no chance, no way of seeing,no way of contacting or even have the ability to meet.

For those of you who have children you may not understand what has happened to my family. We have suffered more than any other family will ever suffer. Try to deal with the hardship of losing something that is not dead but very much alive, but you can not talk,see,hug,play with or even enjoy any more.

That is the ultimate hardship that no one can recover from because it haunts you. You can be alone in the house and you can swear that one of your children or all of your children are around you and they are calling you because they want to play, but you look and all that is in the house is you.

We lost nine children in one weekend because we did not follow the norm of child birth. As a result my wife and I lost not nine children but ten children.As I write this short article, I am alone down stairs and I swear I just saw a young child shadow pass to my right to go up stairs to there bedroom.

As a person you climb the walls wondering what you could have done differently and what you could have,should have, would have done, but society, society tells you that you have no recourse, you must move on, you must go on and you must still function as though nothing happened.

I was a father, I thought I was a good father, but with what happened in 2003, has made me questioned my abilities as that kind of a person.

There is so many different hardships a person can go through, financial, personal,work,family, and relationship. What is the socially responsible thing to do? Do we pick up our socks and move on or do we seek help for what ever our hardship is? I am personally, not the type to go out and seek the help that I need.

Although keeping thing bottled up inside is not the way to be because it will eat you up inside and destroy you even more.

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