by Candy Jules

Created on: August 30, 2007   Last Updated: August 06, 2008

Women want to be recognized, as individuals. Not to walk behind a man, or be passed over on the job because of gender. It's not fair. I really don't think that women want to be equal with men. They just want respect, and recognition for being something besides a house wife, or the under dog on the job.

Women's lib caused a lot of problems with the sexes for a time. A lot of women wanted to prove that they could do everything a man could do, and some felt like they could do it better. The fact of the matter is this; There are some things that women can do better, and there are some things that man can do better. Everybody wants a challenge.

Women have always been brought up to believe than man was put on earth to rule and reign. I felt this way for a lot of years, and to be honest, I resented it. The way the men in my life treated me, there was no way they were going to have rule over me. I got over that, and I'll tell you why.

I listened to a Billy Graham crusade one night, and I wish I had taped it. He was talking about God creating Eve from the rib of Adam, so that she would be a part of him. They were joined as one, like in your marriage vows, to be partners. They were to love one another as one. Woman was to stand by man's side, not to follow. She was to submit to him and he was to love her back in the same way. They were to be man and woman, not boss and slave.

They say that the man is the head of the house, I thought that when two people got married, they became as one. I always thought it should be a partnership, rather than man pulling woman around by the hair. Man was always the bread winner because woman had to care for the household and give birth to the children. Then she cared for them. They each had their duties as man and woman. It was understood.

Woman eventually had to go to work to help out with the finances and that's when the trouble started. I do feel that a woman has the right to draw the same wage if she is doing the same job as a man. Women should work in their appropriate jobs, instead of trying to compete with man to prove something. Man on the other hand, shouldn't put woman down because she's female. The weaker sex.

Since it has become a both sexes world of employment, both sexes should just do their jobs to the best of their abilities, and get on with life. Equality isn't anywhere near as important as survival. It's a tough world we live in and we have to work together to make it work.

Men and women should respect each other, not make everything a competition. That's what creates the gender wars any way. Fighting a war overseas is bad enough, we don't have to be at war with each other. Trying to prove something is never the answer. It will always be a futile battle because no one wants to loose. And there's no way to win.

I understand, that in some countries, the dog's have more respect than women. To me that is sad, even if the women accept it that way. A lot of cultures see women as property to the man. Something that they own. That's been their way of life all of their life, so it's appropriate for man to rule woman.

God said that women were under submission to their husbands, but we're not their subjects. we're not slaves to their every whim, we should all do for each other out of love, and because we want to, not because we have to. Let's face facts, we women can't do without them, anymore than they can do without us.

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