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Romance is neither more nor less important to men than it is to women. That seems to be a myth that exists simply because men and women hold different views on what constitutes romance and thus defines the romantic behavior they expect from one another. Perhaps, as some sociologists argue, it is because men "think" and women "feel."

If that is true, it may explain why women expect romance, and the pleasurable feelings it brings, to continue throughout the entire relationship. It may also explain why men seem to regard romance more as a means to an end. That isn't to say that men don't think romance is important or that they don't net the same sort of pleasure from romance as women do. Many men will admit that they enjoy the candlelight dinners, the strolls in the moonlight, the chilled wine and sexy lingerie that is stereotypical of romance in the early days of a relationship. It is, instead, the suggestion that men regard romance more as a tool that is used to attract and seduce a woman, but a tool that becomes unnecessary and seldom used once he has secured her sexual favor or commitment as his mate.

Women tend to define romance based upon how it makes them feel - i.e. beautiful, desirable, sensuous, & valued. It doesn't matter if she is in her teens or in her nineties, dating or married a lifetime, she will ALWAYS want to feel those things since they are a large part of what defines her as a woman. She wants to be the envy of other women for her ability to attract and keep a great man. Just as important, she wants her man to be the envy of other men. It's why many women will flirt with other men in full view of their boyfriends and husbands. It serves to reassure her (and remind her man) that she is still beautiful and desirable and should not to be taken for granted.

It is the smart man who continues to romance his woman throughout the years and enjoy doing it. It is the lucky woman who has the romantic attentions of her man. These are the rare couples who enjoy a loving a lasting relationship unblemished by sexual ennui or, worse, infidelity.

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