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The question or questions that should be asked all depend on who is doing the asking.

If the question is coming from the future husband, then I think there's really only one question that needs to be asked - "do we both want the same things from life?" If there is any inconsistency in what you both expect from you future, then you need to decide before the wedding goes ahead whether they're deal breakers, or things that can be compromised on.

A best-friend, sister and mother are likely to ask "does he make you happy?" or "do you love him the way you've never loved anyone else?" If the bride to be answers with a definite "yes", then that answer has to be accepted. There's no point forcing your doubts or fears onto the bride as you're more likely to push her away than to bring her around to your way of thinking.

Finally, every bride to be should ask herself one question - "is this what I really want?" There's no point going through with a wedding just because it's what's expected. If you can imagine spending the rest of your life with hubby to be, then go for it. If there are doubts niggling in the back of your mind, then don't ignore them.

Any other questions are really redundant and intrusive. A couple's decision to get married should be exactly that - the couple's decision. Their relationship should not be up for dissection, their choices should not be decided by others no matter how well intentioned.

Because in the end only the couple can really know their true feelings towards one another, and what it is that they expect from their relationship.

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