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family is by being accepting and welcoming.

Tip 5: Shield and Love
It's natural to want to shield your children from pain but sometimes it is unavoidable or more damaging to prevent them from feeling it. This new relationship may not work out. Your children may be hurt if they've had the opportunity to care for the transient partner but pain is a reality of life. Let them hurt, let them cry if they need to and remind them that you love them and that these things happen and have nothing to do with them.

Tip 6: Teamwork, Communication and Truth
Finally, work with your ex. Discuss with her how you want to handle situations. The truth is you will both date at some point after your separation and it will be easier on all involved, particularly the children, if you can agree to maintain an accordant relationship, even a friendship if possible, that is understanding and accepting. Communication is a key factor and it is important to be honest with each other.

It can be challenging to come to terms with a failed relationship. No matter which direction you want to take with your ex-partner, if you still love her, or if you are still angry at his betrayal it will always be easier to deal with the shared lives you will always have, because of the union your children created, if you can get along calmly. Put aside the games we play and treat each other with respect and consideration. You'll be setting the best example for your children and offer them a sense of security all children deserve.

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