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head says "danger" when there is a knock on the door or your spouse invites you out to talk, do not do it. If you feel that you must, meet in a public place and bring a witness. It is NEVER wise to meet with an angry spouse alone in private.

7. Don't necessarily believe anything your spouse says and plan for the unexpected. Your angry spouse will try every sneaky and underhanded trick in the book to get what he or she wants and regains control of the situation.

8. Do the best you can with what you have and do not be afraid to ask for help. These situations take time to deal with. It is frustrating to go from basic daily living to not knowing where you are going or what you will do. Abuse hotlines, food banks, church groups, and government programs will be able to assist to you until you are up and running again. They were put in place for exactly this reason, so use them. There is no reason to be embarrassed; everyone needs a little boost occasionally.

9. Don't blame yourself. We all make mistakes. No one likes to think that the person you love and rely on would treat you badly. When a spouse is mean, we think it is a one-time occurrence and that things will get better. Talk to someone you trust about your feelings.

10. Take time out for yourself and your children. Abuse is extremely hurtful and stressful to all who experience it. When you leave, it is difficult to adjust for everyone involved. Be sure that all of you enjoy some free time to take your minds off your problems. Also, make sure to talk and explain the situation to your children as best you can.

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