You look across the room at your husband or wife and, with sadness, notice the flame of romance has dwindled. The closeness and intimacy once shared seems strangely absent. Your lips miss the kisses; your body yearns for the cuddles and caresses once so frequent a part of your day and you miss the fun, laughter and sharing of conversations in the past. One question fills your thoughts - "Where has the romance gone and what can we do to recapture those times?"

In an American survey carried out by psychologists Judith Sherven PhD and James Sniechowski PhD, six thousand people were asked what question they most wanted answered about their relationships. A staggering 83% replied "how do you keep romance alive." Many other researches indicate that married couples live longer and happier lives than those who are divorced. Therefore it can be seen that keeping romance alive in an important element of marital success, especially if you do not want your relationship to end as another "failure" statistic. The problem is how to accomplish your desires. The following are ten ways by which the flame of romance can be rekindled or kept alive.

1. Make the statement.

As marriages travel through the years, the saying of the words "I love you" and "you are the most important person in my life" seem to diminish proportionately. Sometimes it seems two partners feel that because they have the certificate and are living together this is ample evidence of their romance, but it is seldom the case. Telling someone you love them and that they are important to you, as long as you mean it, is both reassuring and makes the other person feel wanted and desired. The words will remind them of and reinforce his or her feelings for you as well.

Furthermore, making these statements does not just have to be reserved for when you

are behind the closed doors of your home. Your family, friends and relatives should also know how you feel about each other. Letting other people know how important your marriage relationship is shows your commitment to each other and that you are proud of the marriage and the union that exists between you and your spouse.

2. Don't take your partner for granted.

As the years of marriage pass we all have a tendency of falling into the trap of taking our partners for granted; of treating them like an old pair of slippers that are always there, comfortable and not needing attention. Nothing could be further from the truth. People grow and change

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