4 of 32

Write now Article Tools

Page 2 of 2

your work, your children's school and your landlord of the situation. Make sure the school does not allow your husband or wife to pull the kids out of class. If you fear for your life, enlist security at work to help protect you and never walk to your car alone.

GET A COURT ORDER-
If your spouse has threatened you in the past, or physically hurt your children, go to the courts. Even if you don't get a restraining order, a court can madnate where and when a spouse can see you, how many times he can call you, and under what circumstances he may contact you. If nothing else, a court mandate will help build a case for you if your spouse breaks any of the rules.

HAVE A PLACE TO STAY-
After leaving your spouse, it is recommendable that you stay with a trusted family member or friend while things calm down. Having people around you will help put your heart at ease. When you do decide to get a home of your own, don't tell your spouse where you are moving. If you must because of children, get strict court orders mandating visitation rights, where he is allowed to meet you, when and how often he can call. If nothing else, you will have legal rights if he violates any of the mandates.

SEEK COUNSELING-
Be sure that you seek counseling. If you have children, they will have a lot of confusion and mixed emotions about what has occurred to so be sure to enroll them in therapy also. Make sure that daycare, teachers and babysitters understand what your children are dealing with, to not only watch out for unusual behavior, but also to help your children make adjustments.

Leaving any abusive situation is difficult. Be proud of yourself that you have the strength and determination to leave. You are setting a good example for your children and anyone else who has to deal with fear in their own home.

Learn more about this author, Molly Carter.
Click here to send this author comments or questions.

• << previous page
• 1
• 2

Add your voice

Know something about How to leave if you're afraid of your spouse?
We want to hear your view. Write now!