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Currently our culture encourages "safe sex" before marriage but safe sex is an oxymoron. Safe from what I'd like to know? Our society has bandied this phrase about to the point that young people simply disregard the realities of having sex before marriage. Even the teens I know who are using "protection" are not prepared for the emotional fall out of an end to a sexually active relationship. There is the list of STD's that condoms and birth control do not keep you safe from. Who are we kidding when we tell kids to go ahead and have sex as long as they do it safely? Safely? Safe from getting pregnant? We all know people who forgot the pill one day and got pregnant or had a tear in the condom and got pregnant. The packaging will tell you that. The numbers of abortions in teens under 16 is rising and with it the emotional sideffects of depression and low self esteem. The only safe sex is no sex until marriage. That is the only thing that comes with a 100% guarantee of no STDs and no pregnancy.

Sex is a sacred act between to committed, married persons. Abstaining from sex until marriage allows a person to focus on more important issues in a dating relationships. Being great in bed doesn't mean anything if partners don't agree on key issues of morality, possibly religion, lifestyle, money management, and communication. Most of the failed marriages today are not due to a poor sex life. Money stress, and job pressures are the primary factor in the separation of couples. Unrealistic expectations arising from the false preconception in our society that it is smooth sailing as long as you are sleeping together, contribute to the breakdown of all relationships, married or unmarried.
The benifits of abstaining from sex before marriage are high. 0% chance of getting pregnant and 0% chance of getting an STD. There is no birth control in the world that has such a great percentage. Abstinance is not an old-fashioned idea, it is a realistic way for people to protect themselves from real dangers. Statistics show that couples who live together and are sexually active before marriage actually have a higher divorce rate than couples who abstain from sex and do not live together before marriage.
Simply looking at statistics and scientific evidence the choice is clear; being sexually active before marriage should be exposed for what it is: emotionally and physically risky, NOT safe and NOT necessary in predicting if you and a partner are suitable for long term relationship.

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