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Relationships are never simple. Relating an ex lesser than that. When you move on, there may be some bitterness; especially if the relationship was long term and intense. There are countless reasons behind breakups. But, when your ex has moved on and you're still in neutral, how do you deal with their new love?

1) First off, don't be jealous. You don't want your ex so why be angry when someone else does. Be cordial when meeting your ex and their new lover. Sometimes, an ex will try to bait a confrontation and rub his new fling in your face. Walk away from that. Smile, shake their hand and compliment them on choosing your ex. If you choose to act mature, the silly games won't bother you.

2) Be happy for your ex. Let them know that you are happy for them and wish them well. Be convincing because if your congratulations sound like b.s., your ex may try to dig on you. Relating to a new love is always touchy. Chaos can catch fire like a match. Be cool and understand you are finally free. If you ever really wanted them, you would have them.

3) Don't be angry with the newbie. Let the new fling be. If your ex was a cheating dog, the newbie should expect fleas. Don't be mad at the lover for taking them away. Your ex left. They weren't taken. Forget about the life together you both planned. Forget about the fact they used and took advantage of you. Amoral people do amoral things. Maybe, it was your fault. Who cares? Don't hate the person for being with them.

4) If you have no ties to your ex, leave them be. It's harder dealing with a baby daddy or a baby mama. You have the ex, the children and their new relationship in a messy triangle. If there are no children involved, consider yourself lucky and move on. Your ex's new relationship has nothing to do with you. Remember that.

5) And finally, don't play mind games with your ex. Don't bring someone else around you just to show your ex. Don't plan on double-dating with your ex and their love with you and your love. Your ex may use their new love to make you crazy. Leave them alone because using someone else to make someone else jealous is irrational. Don't get back together with a crazy person.

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