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TOP FIVE QUESTIONS GIRLS ASK THEMSELVES ABOUT YOU BEFORE THEY SAY "YES":

How has he successfully captured my attention? (There IS NO LINE, boys. It isn't possible to hook the right chick solely on the basis of ANYTHING you may say)

Does he seem like a good person? (Boring, but true for girls being realistic about finding a life partner)

Do I like myself better when he's around?

Does this person have the respect of my family and friends?

Would I trust this person to be the father of my children?

WHAT GIRLS ARE REALLY LOOKING FOR IN A PARTNER:

1. A SOULMATE - Emotions and qualities of personality which head the
average lady's wish list are:

- sensitivity (not machismo or toughness)
- kindness (not cruelty or guts to do the wrong thing)
- capacity to give and receive love (not lust)
- humility (not arrogance)
- reliability (not rebelliousness)
- consideration (not thoughtlessness)
- generosity (not empty flattery)
- courage (to live by your conscience)
- responsibility (especially to family and friends)
- independence (not an emotional mess)
- confidence (not insecurity)
- strength (not domination)


2. An EQUAL - sound judgment about use of time, money, careers, friends
- rationality/ability to reason and think for themself
- maturity in equal measure to yours
- common sense (safety issues, general behaviour)
- pleasant disposition (not angry at the world, rebellious,
rude, mean, jealous, violent)
- no addictions (money, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex, porn,
shopping, spending)

3. A HUNK? - well groomed (hair, nails, skin) and well dressed
- clean
- physically in shape (within reason)
- the X factor (unique features such as eyes, smile)
- good smelling (easily fixed chemically boys!)

4. HABITS - can be fun and have fun
- enjoys indoor and outdoor pursuits
- is flexible with plans
- likes animals, sports, family, friends
- has own interests as well as shared ones
- doesn't criticise
- isn't unduly jealous or possessive
- isn't a show off
- isn't gross in habits - a farter, burper, messy eater,
nosepicker, smelly
- doesn't indulge in fantasies about image and the ideal
woman/image/pick-up line
- is a gentleman

THIS NEEDS WORK BOYS:

1. Telephones the lady as arranged
2. Asks himself (not through friends)
3. Introduces himself to parents
4. Arrives on time
5. Is well presented (appropriate for the occasion)
6. Is not an embarrassment to the lady
7. Arranges transport appropriate for the occasion
8. Walks the lady to her door
9. Opens various doors, shields the lady from traffic etc
10.PAYS for the lady, despite her protests about equality
(this can be open for negotiation AFTER she's told her father of your generosity!)
11. Respects the wishes of the lady's parents
(Remember - SHE has to live with them, and so may YOU in years to come!)
12. Remembers key events (birthdays etc)
13. Makes sacrifices for the lady - she appreciates it
14. And most importantly, DOES NOT ogle other ladies whilst in the lady's presence (this really hurts!)

If your lady feels loved and special while she's around you, she'll probably want to spend more time there. So you both win. It is not impressive for girls to notice what brilliant pick-up lines you have, or how many other chicks you can make eye contact with while you're out together. It's a passion killer!

Go get 'em tigers!

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