by Chrissy Harrison

Created on: August 26, 2007

One of the most hurtful things in a marriage is when a partner cheats. It can leave you with so many unanswered questions and feelings of hurt. When you find that your partner has been disloyal your world just shakes and it leaves you with so many mixed feelings that you just don't know what to do.

You don't have to feel like that, and just because your partner has cheated doesn't mean that it is your fault no matter what your spouse tries to say. It don't change who you are, and should not, (although it is easy to say than to feel) destroy your self confidence. If you can't shake this feelings of unworthiness or guilt then it is best that you go talk to a councilor, talking with someone who is a professional can help you feel better about yourself and reassure you that it was not your fault.

The best course of action, is to separate yourself from your partner, even if it is just temporary. You need to choose what is right for you, and you won't be able to decide that clearly if you stay with him or her. Although though the saying goes once a cheater always a cheater that may not always be the case, and even if they have managed to reassure you that it will not happen again, it might not be a good idea to continue the relationship.

If you do choose to stay with your spouse that has been unfaithful do not feel that you have to seek revenge or equal the score as that could be even more damaging to yourself. I would recommend seeing a marriage councilor together, and work through the issues that caused him or her to cheat and work through your feelings of hurt and mistrust. There are also several marriage support groups that meat in most cities that you can find and attend that might help you to work through your feelings on the issue.

It is very important that you look in your heart, and let yourself choose what is right you do not have to force yourself or be forced to do anything by anyone. Take a break, and be able to be by yourself to think things through.

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