You came home last night and saw her. She laid half-nude in your bed with your husband. The covers were toss unsunder. The room smelled of musk and betrayal. Was it all in your head? As your husband said. Your eyes saw the truth. It was dressed in a skimpy lace nightly and thong bikini bottom. The truth had legs meeting up with curves around firm thighs. Truth stood before you topless and with her elbows crossed below her ample breasts.

"Who is she?" She barked your way. Your husband's red face turned away.

"I'm his wife! What's going on here?" Was your reply. However, you don't wish to fight the homewrecker. That cheating husband took the wrecking ball to your marriage vows. The signs were there in the forms of excuses.

"Honey, I won't make it for dinner tonight. I'm sorry." he said.
"The boss needs me for another hour. Can we make plans for tomorrow?" He offered.

Of course, you knew your soul mate worked first shift. First shift had never extended past 5 pm, until now. Home-cooked meals changed into microwave re-heats. Weeks passed since you've slept together in bed. Your mate drifted in later and later. Clothes were changed. They showered before coming home. When did the work place often THAT to their employees? Stains began appearing on his boxers. Her panties smelled kind of funny. Your sham of a marriage wasn't funny. But how do you deal with it? Here's how without serving five to ten for aggravated domestic battery.

1) Just ask calmly. Come out with the question straight. "Are you cheating on me?" Don't overwhelm them with analysis beforehand, like "You're not around anymore." "We don't talk like we used to." If you unleash an interrogation barrage, your mate will dismiss the issue period. You want answers. Ask one question and give them the opportunity to be honest. However, if they fail to be honest, try this idea.

2) Put them in your shoes. If your mate says "I'm not cheating. How could you think I would do that" or something to that effect, respond with this. "Okay. If it was me working odd hours, staying out late and coming home with different clothes I had left in, what would you assume?" Your mate would be forced to think. They would be forced to think rationally. Rational thought is honest thought. If they responded, "I would think nothing, honey." You would have your affirmation to their deception. It's short of a confession to cheating, but when there's smoke..."

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