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you. Additionally, ask whether he or she has ended the affair or are going to? If the latter then you need a commitment that it will end from the moment you are talking to them. Furthermore, it is necessary to get an honest and open decision from the cheating spouse regarding whether, if you permit, they want to continue with the marriage and try to rebuild the love and trust that has been destroyed.

If there is a desire from the cheating spouse to rebuild the marriage, you have to set down guidelines and conditions that you want him or her to agree to before you aagree that the marriage can continue. There should be no ambiguity in your terms and the cheating partner must be left in no doubt that should any of these conditions be breached there will not be a second chance. Also be clear about the fact you will be checking to ensure that he or she is keeping their promise and this will continue until the trust has been restored.

Finally, if he or she has accepted your terms and you have agreed that you want them to remain in your life and the marriage, forgive them. The marriage will not work without your forgiveness and, if this is not ppossible then perhaps separation is the best solution. It is also important, once everything has been settled, not to go telling everyone about your partner's infidelity. Not only could such action seriously, and potentially fatally, damage you relationship, it may also impair other external relationships with friends and relatives.

The choice of how to cope with a cheating spouse is individual, but for those who wish to continue the relationship, the above comments may help to form steps that take you in the right direction.

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