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Things That Can Kill a Marriage

There once was a time were couples stayed in marriages for the sake of the kids, and because society at the time deemed it taboo; not to mention many women sacrificed themselves and became financially dependent upon the marriage. Today, we see a much different picture with couples running for the door at the slightest hint of conflict. There seems to be a great inability, between couples, to really interact and give the proper amount of equal effort when it comes to the obstacles that crop up on the marital path. Of course, that is not to say that there are some serious obstacles that can and do create a conflict that cannot be resolved, leaving the marriage dead in the water.

So, what kills a marriage?

Well, there are many factors that can kill a marriage, as you will see in the following information:

The inability to communicate effectively and responsibly is one of the leading causes of marital dead-end. Too often, couples do not know how to speak to one another. They become skilled at tossing insults and avoiding conflict. When this happens, the couple winds up in "circle talk haven". This is where the same topic of conflict swirls around their home without ever getting resolved. Then what eventually happens is new conflicts arise before old ones have been addressed and resolved. The old conflicts become the foundation beneath the new conflicts, and soon you will have a pile of unresolved situations smoldering in the background of your relationship. Eventually there will be the inevitable breaking point-and this can and will kill a marriage.

Dependency is yet another situation that can lead to marital death. When a couple begins their relationship, they come together as two separate entities with two separate lives, experiences, traits, and personalities. Then the relationship melts the two of you together, and sometimes each member forgets who they were and can no longer see that individual aspect of themselves. If the couple loses their personal identities, or one member of the couple loses their identity, it can and will cause resentment to form. All too often, you see one member in a relationship that completely gives up everything that made them who they are, and they allow the relationship to define them. Sometimes maybe, one member of the relationship demands the other member conform to what they want, and in essence there is an expectation that one must sacrifice who they were to make the other person happy. This will

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