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Dealing is actually the easiest part. Knowing is the hardest. you may say what do i mean. Somethings are better left unsaid sometimes. I have been married for eleven years and I am an unofficial member of the "I did because he did" club. I am not proud of this and it actually hurt things more than it helped. See often we do things in retaliation and it is just to make the person hurt for the moment but see more misjudgment walks, talks, and calls me mommy. I was your average house wife. We had a picture perfect set up husband, wife, daughter, and son. He worked, I took the kids to and from school, paid the bills, cooked, cleaned, all that a house wife did and I was cool. Then it started. The late meetings, the late dinners. The receipts for restaurants and I know I was out taken to them, and the most compelling of all was the telephone messages and texts. "I love you" "I can't wait to see you" "I miss you". I was crushed I was wanted him to hurt, I actually let it go on for a few more weeks so I could gather more information, I did so by texting her myself, she would respond and I knew i had them then. I called her crying the next day and she fell for it. She called him immediately after I called her and left him a message. I ,of course, heard it, I knew his pass code (I cracked a while back). I ended up leaving him and I had moved on to a new man and that is how I got to my daughter who is four now. I am back with my husband, though. Trust is very hard for us though. We battle with this still now. It is hard for us to move pass this part of life completely. We have accepted it, forgiven each other for it, and made attempts to move past it but every so often it resurfaces and it is like we are reliving that part of our lives again. So to answer you ultimate question how do you deal with a cheating spouse? The answer to that lies within the person. Many people would have left and never looked back in my situation but sometimes leaving isn't always the answer. But making a quick spur of the moment decision as I did is not good either. Sit down, think with a level head. Look at your history with this person, decide if it is worth it for you to continue with this person and see where it goes or if it is just to much for you to bare. Cheating is never easy and many times we think we want to know, but in essence for me had I never known the things that he did, I know it would have never resulted in me stepping out on him.

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