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Woking mothers guilt is a fact not a myth. Whether you work out of necessity or love of career the haunting of not being with your child every moment still exists. Often times the mother feels the need to coddle the child when they are around, letting there children get away with much less discipline in order to make up for lost time. They also tend to give more gifts and give in to temper-tantrums far more easily than mother that does not work. Bad behavior is often times ignored or worse, mothers blame themselves rather than discipline the child.

This is a great disservice to the child and the parent. Whether you are a mother that works or stays home your child still needs rules, direction and discipline. Children want and need this.

If you give your child everything he/she wants then you are not preparing them for adulthood. Currently I babysit a child now that has two working parents. They are nice people they love their daughter that is obvious but then again the little girl is the boss, not them. She makes the rules. I can't tell you how many times the mother is late to work because 'the baby was still sleeping' Yes the daughter is so prized that they will not even wake her up in the morning so they can get to work on time. Insanity, I know. The little girl, three years old, does not get her hair brushed because she 'doesn't like it. The result.......she brought head lice into my home. All because the decision to brush hair was left to the child. This same child is only just now being potty-trained. Why? Because she didn't want to go potty, and the parents didn't want her to make a mess of herself. As an experienced mother I laughed at this, knowing full well that she would have to mess herself quite a few times before she would decide that the potty was a better option.

This child also does not have to wear shoes, or coats, or hats if she does not want to. She may eat and drink anything anywhere(except at my house).The mother gets upset when a stranger has the nerve to suggest that her daughter should have shoes on in public places. The mothers answer is that 'She does not like to wear shoes, I can't force her to do what she doesn't want. Remember the child is three the age when everything is challenged. This is the age when they are beginning to learn right from wrong.

I don't see this behavior as loving parenting. In my opinion it is bordering neglect.Being a parent is hard, no one likes to correct their own perfect child, but it can and is done. And our

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