A cheating spouse, where's the gun you say... Seriously, this is a time when you don't want to go off half cocked. Admittedly this will be a male point of view, a practical straightforward male point of view. In the words of the famous TV personality and self-professed expert on most every issue known to man, Dr. Phil will tell you some things are a plain and simple Deal Breaker.

For me this is a definite deal breaker. I've had my share of failed relationships, we all have. But I've always maintained one standard, I never cheated, I've never strayed. If a relationship flourished or went sour , until it was over and we had gone our own ways, was it then time to move on. Am I expecting too much from my partners, I don't think so. All I ask is honesty and being upfront. If there's a problem the time to communicate it is before the relationship has headed off into the ditch.

Though I've never been a victim of a cheating spouse (to the best of my knowledge) I feel pretty strong on the issue. Presently I've logged in almost 13 years in a good honest caring relationship where we both try very hard to think of the others needs first. We have a true partnership in everything we do. I'm very lucky. But the one thing I've always stressed , if there's a problem, or and issue on your mind, just tell me. We'll work it out.

Looking to another to solve a problem is just unacceptable and for me would mean the end. Nothing violent, just a quiet acceptance of failure on both parts to carryout the contract we signed together. Its more than a piece of paper to me.

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