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Kissing up to the boss is not a new concept by any stretch of the imagination. It's been perpetuated for centuries. What's even more unfortunate now is how it's still viewed as one of the necessary acceptable behaviors that is encouraged to advance your career.

Why is this so accepted in our workplace as typical behavior? It screams of how low a person's self-esteem is. Whatever happened to good old-fashioned hard work that is recognized and encouraged verses who's better at brown nosing than the next employee?

Not only does it scream that an employee lacks self-esteem, but it announces to the rest of the company that a boss who participates in this same "admiration" lacks the skills necessary to circumvent management or even leadership skills that squelch this as acceptable behavior.

Our society is very goal orientated. We move and advance quickly and expect the same of those around us. Promotions are obtainable to those that work hard and possess the proper skills. If advancement only comes because you're kissing up to the boss, than what have you really gained?

Let's put into perspective what it truly costs when kissing up to the boss is all you're familiar with. Often what one thinks of as gaining, in reality is nothing but a loss they haven't had to face the consequences for.

Respect

No matter the skills you possess, if you've lowered your standards by kissing up as a means of promotion, those around you will have no respect for you as a person. You can't expect more from others you work with, if you've already given up the one value that defines you as a person.

Trust

Trust in a relationship will not work when there's a lack of respect. They only work together. If you're willing to kiss up as a means to get ahead, then you're willing to do it by any means available to you without regards to those around you.

Character

Our character is defined as the attributes we have that determine our moral and ethical action or reaction that we will take in any given situation. If you choose kissing up as part of your character, you place yourself in an unfavorable position of someone who is willing to get whatever you want no matter the cost. That's insulting to anyone you work with and screams that you lack "teamwork" skills.

In conclusion, there are a variety of reasons why this type of behavior is interpreted as less than desirable and looked upon as one of the last unacceptable promotional tools used in so many companies.

We are an advanced society, and as such, we are an intelligent people as well. It's time that we look at these behaviors for what they are and try to make positive changes where we can. Getting ahead should never be about to kiss or not to kiss. With the amount of money spent throughout our many colleges and learning institutions, it's time we get back to the basics and put our intelligence to its intended use.

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