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you project of who you are weak. It's great to be a giver, and not something to drop. What needs to happen is to cut those people that give nothing out of your social life and find those that are able to give and take, creating not only a balance in your life, but reinforcing positivity to a life that always felt negative. Many givers dismiss change and feel that they are happy with who they are, although there is a world of difference between give and take, and give, give, give. The giver becomes a worn out shell of the person they could be until they have little left to give to themselves, and thus become a less valuable friend to those around them.

Happiness

We all strive for a happy balance in life, though many fail because of the imposition of friends and family, though what we fail to realize is that if we are basically unhappy, what we have to give others isn't very valuable. Looking at an individual's life and adding a little element of self interest isn't selfish. It's essential to find that happiness that hides within. Take up interests that make you happy, and what you present is a more balanced person without inner resentment and stress. Here, it may not be possible to make total changes to your life, though by introducing those areas to your life that can make YOU happy, what you end up with is a happier person for all those that surround your life, which means that what you give back to relationships is a lot more positive.

Expectations.

Just as you have expectations of others, others have expectations of you. There is a well known phrase that says Blessed are those that expect nothing because they will never be disappointed, and it rings true. Your expectations of others can make you extremely unhappy. You have very little control over what another person makes of their life. You can influence them in a positive way, though the very fact that you have expectations will make you unhappy, as people don't work around what you expect of them.

Similarly, those that expect you to react in a certain fashion are imposing their will on you as an individual. The moment you drop expectations of people, those around you respond better. You become less judgmental, and learn to accept people no matter what their weaknesses are, and the weaknesses melt into the background, letting you see the wonderful aspect of friendship that those with expectations will never see, because they let their expectations get in the way.

Behind every human being, there is an element of value and worth, and by self examination and examination of all the aspects that surround their lives, what a human being can achieve is self improvement beyond all measure. The secret to self improvement doesn't lie in drugs or alcohol, other people or outside influence. It is there for every human being to grasp and learn, by looking for the answers that lie within their own mind and soul.

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