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The other day I ended up talking to a friend of mine about her current "love life." She is very beautiful and has a lot of guys constantly chasing her, but she is extremely picky and can never seem to find one guy that she likes for more than a short time. Because of this I always find it amusing to see what's going on in her life in the area, for she always has some sort of interesting stories about what was wrong with the guy. Usually I forget whatever we were talking about after a few hours due to the triviality of the conversation, but this time she mentioned something that really stuck out to me. She started to tell me about this guy she had been interested in for a few weeks now, about how great he was, how exciting and interesting and romantic. She went on and on about how he was basically a perfect guy. So I inquired as to why she seemed indifferent to him now, and she admitted to me that she had, well, started growing bored with it all. Surprised, I continued to ask why, and she told me she couldn't really describe why. On the outside, this guy was pure Prince Charming, plus he had a good career and an exciting life. To me it sounded as if she saw him as the type that every girl hopes to one day find. And yet, she was growing bored, even though at the same time he continued to fall harder and harder for her. So she was left without really knowing what to do about the situation. Of course, she's the kind of girl who's often in that situation with guys, but rarely is she in the place where the guy seems so great everywhere, yet she can't pinpoint why it doesn't feel right.

So after talking with her, it really stuck with me that, for the most part, it doesn't matter a whole lot what you are like on the outside. Sure, looks, money, excitement, all those things are great at first, but none of them provide lasting happiness. Rather, our happiness in companionship is found in the subtle, small, mostly indescribable things. While she was telling me her story, it struck me that all of those things she was talking about really don't matter when it comes to compatibility. There was something about this guy that just couldn't grab her in a lasting way, and I think that thing is something that can't be taught, or achieved, or learned. It's the unknown, the mysterious click between two people that just works. It's the factor that allows us to be completely ourselves with another person, and not just that, but be better versions of ourselves. That right person will

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