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I have personally known many couples from various cultures and countries that were in arranged marriages. I feel though that though many of the couples would never express this, they I feel if it were strictly up to them and not the traditions of their culture they would not have gone with an arranged marriage.

Because of the traditions, religions and expectations of their culture, many people just keep quiet and go along with an arranged marriage. I know of many very unhappy arranged married couples. Over the past several decades I've heard many complain on talk shows of unhappy, unwanted arranged marriages and often only after their spouse has died, or they were divorced, their culture ostracizes them or even threatens bodily harm to them - so I have been told. This, I feel, should never have occurred and definitely not in our times. I feel it is wrong although would be quick to add that this is not meant to insult anyone's culture or religion, but merely to state my view that this kind of marriage is outdated.

In America, I have seen what I would describe as arranged relationships and marriages, and most that I have seen have been troubled and ended either in divorce or tragedy. Often friends family and others try to set us up on dates and I am a bachelor and speak from experience, with some-one they feel we would like, or they feel we should be with.

I have even seen situations where family and others will get in the middle of a relationship to break us up with some one when they feel the relationship is wrong for us. I recently experienced a dear lady that I love who seems to accept family pressures regarding decisions in her life. It has been a problem within her life for quite a long while now and personally, I have seldom liked a lady that someone tried to fix me up with and can imagine how people who are forced to marry some-one they do not love feel, especially if they have never met them. I feel God can and should bring the right person for us into our lives if we are even meant to marry, rather than so called well meaning family, friends, race, or culture!

I feel there are of course times in our life when a friend or family member feels even sees us heading for trouble in a relationship. It is my belief that they should ask to talk to us about it and not go behind our back to interfere with our relationship or marriage.An arranged marriage I feel interferes with our life, happiness, and God's plan for our life!Often I see many unhappy people. they are divorced, separated, never married and miserable, angry and hateful! Thy want to make us as they are. These people deeply are angered to see others married to the person they know is the one for them! the person they truly love! god's special chosen person for them. So many people want to play God with and in our life and love!

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