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Marriages can only be of two types either arranged or love marriage. I consider arranged marriage good tradition.
In a modern arranged marriage (not forced arranged marriages), parents or elder family members shortlist several possible candidates. Then a formal meeting, with the family of the prospective mate, is arranged. The main parameters for go ahead of a relationship are happiness, adjustably, family status of the couple. The parents/elders play their role as responsible facilitators and well-wishers. These kind of marriages are more common in some countries of the Middle East, Africa and Asia.
The marriage is usually considered a bounding of two families not just of two people.
Basically arranged marriage is a good tradition because it carries the cultural values, family bindings, children's compatibility and upbringing. Families focus on the parameters which fosters a loving and fruitful relationship that lasts longer. So when a man or woman reaches their marriageable age their parents or elder family members start search of a compatible match for their children.
It is also revealed in many studies that sameness of up-bringing, monetary equality, background, spiritual beliefs, and traditions make the most satisfying and enduring relationships. Love which has been assumed as a major ingredient for marital plunge slips down for secondary consideration in arranged marriages . In order words, falling in love with someone who comes from very different background and upbringing doesn't necessarily make the most successful of partnerships.

In arranged marriages couple discovers each other even after several years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover a new thing about your partner. But if it is kind of love marriages then there is nothing new to discover which at times may end up making your life boring and makes life boring. When two people are in love, they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. It is after marriage that you get to know the person behind the mask.
In arranged marriages, the perspective mate has been chosen by experienced and matured family members so it can be said that a decision which is not taken in infatuation.
Finally, couple adjusts in the family with ease because others members co operate and love them, it is very important where the pattern of joint family exists like India.

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